Keeping a happy relationship


Most of us have at some point in our life came across fairy tales, be it in the form of childhood fairy tales, where the prince and princess lived happily ever after, or the plethora of romantic comedies and dramas from Hollywood. They both have one thing in common – an idealistic view on relationships. A fantasy for a “happily ever after” romance.

Maybe not always with the sugary glazing, but definitely a long lasting partnership is what many people crave for.However, being in a relationship is pretty much a full time job. Sometimes, it feels like you are taking care of a baby.But what do you do when you feel that your significant other may be losing interest in you?

Well you can rejoice for one thing, as although it seems elusive true love and a strong life-long relationship is achievable if you try to be realistic.Here’s some tips that may be helpful to keep your relationship were you want it to be.

#1: Catch romance where you can
You may start out with chocolates and roses, but the likelihood of being able to sustain that feeling with a busy schedule is pretty unlikely. Successful couples learn to build a scent of romance at unexpected times — during their daily commute, while doing laundry — and in low-impact ways, whether that be a long, lingering smooch or just holding hands. In other words, the next time you hear yourself say “Oh, look, we’ve got 15 minutes to ourselves,” make use of it — that’s what keeps the spark alive.

#2:Fight fair
Believe it or not, learning to fight right is an important part of keeping chemistry alive. Why? Because if you are constantly cutting each other down, it’s hard to feel mutually amorous. There is no such thing as a relationship without disagreements. But if there is an understanding that your partner can come to you with any dissension without being attacked, you will have an honest relationship comprised of ‘open discussions’ rather than ‘fights. Learn to listen to each other when you're upset and admit when you’re wrong.Furthermore, make a rule of never, ever saying ‘I told you so’ no matter how much you might want to say it. The result is that, the chemistry doesn’t wane because you'll never let those arguments escalate to a personal level. Focus on the issue at hand instead of throwing verbal punches.

 #3:Nurture your separate selves
Going off to your book club when your sweetie’s out golfing isn’t a sign you two are drifting apart. On the contrary, developing individual interests allows for a richer life as a couple. By taking little “couple breaks,” you gain a greater appreciation of the gifts your partner brings to your life and you have more to offer as well. It’s very attractive to be independent sometimes. You feel better about yourself and you’re less demanding of your partner when you’re together. After all, taking some personal responsibility for your own well-being relieves the other person of the pressure to “provide” happiness — so go ahead and nurture some solo adventures. That will also keep each of you stocked with plenty of adventures to chat about, which also builds your bond.

 #4:Take on a project together
Separate interests aside, exploring new ground together is also important since it strengthens your history of shared experiences. It will brought a whole new level of closeness to your relationship because of the time you spent learning as a duo during any endeavor. Couples who take on adventures together get a sense of daring and accomplishment that can really kick up their chemistry!

#5:Don’t let your physical attraction for each other dwindle
No doubt about it, couples with healthy libidos have no problem keeping chemistry cooking. (That whole “couples’ desire for each other naturally fades over time” excuse? Not true.) The trick to injecting more electricity into a lagging love life has to do with trying new things — sure, it can be easy to work on tricks and techniques when you first meet, but people’s preferences can, and do, change over time. Couples who were the most satisfied were also the ones who were open to some experimentation. This isn’t to say you suddenly have to become a wild thing, though. Even returning to the basics you may have abandoned along the way — lots of kissing and eye contact, for example — can make the usual encounter feel very differentand much more intimate.

#6:Engage in some mutual admiration
In order for chemistry between two people to thrive, there needs to be mutual respect. It’s about putting yourself in the role of an observer of your partner. “Watch them ‘perform’ — I’m not saying they need to do a song and dance for you — just pay attention to the everyday things that remind you why you find them so special.” Then, make it a point to lob compliments their way. An example of this is to occasionally create a mental list of the qualities you dig about your partner, and to occasionally share one of your thoughts with the one you love. The reality is, you’ll always want to be around someone who thinks you’re fantastic.

Now I have to keep our relationship burning. I hope you've learned something from it and will keep your relationship in track. Stay in love, it will make life more easy. Till then....


Mericar Olivar Mayola said...

ate naa ko book related ana... like it ang love it jud...wahehe...

Ria Lorejo said...

im happy bcoz im so in love.... ;)

Penny Aclan said...

sakto ka maam lovejoy

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